Yeah, you heard right. As you've probably heard me say in other sections; after a certain amount of time in a relationship, your mate becomes a reflection of you.
For example, FELLAS if your chick naggs when you go out, don't LIE about going out. That's the quick fix. But then 5 years later, you're still having the same fights everytime you want to go out with the boys. This is because instead of going through the fussing phase and making her get used to you hanging out (every now and then), you led her to believe that her man doesn't go out to clubs, bars, etc. If that's you, that's YOU and don't lie to avoid an arguement; That's WEAK. Plus, if she finds out through a friend who also happened to be at that club, that you were there; your trust is out the window AND it makes it look like you were up to somethin even if you were just having innocent fun.
And LADIES, by this time i know you're probably waiting on a ring. And if you don't get one, you complain about the man not wanting to commit. But by the time 5 years rolls around, you're cleaning, cooking, living together, having sex and the whole 9. You're pretty much doing EVERYTHING he would expect you to do as his wife, without you actually having the title. Therefore, why would he go out and spend money on a ring, only to turn around and spend more money on a wedding. There's really no upside to that, for him. The person he is in the relationship is now a reflection of the woman you've been in the relationship.
Those are just a couple of small examples. But everything you do along the course of your relationship molds the person you're with. If you cheat on your mate, and they take you back; your going to have to deal with the trust issues that YOU brought into the relationship. Don't complain and say stop bringing it up, because though I've never been cheated on (not to my knowledge), I'm sure it's not that easy. You just have to deal with it until the pain is gone. If you get caught in a lie, yes you're liable to have your phone checked while you're asleep. That doesn't make your mate jealous, thats just a reaction to something YOU did.
Naturally, people tend to blame others for everything. That's just how people work. But in a relationship, the first couple of years are spent learning each other and molding to each other. After that, chances are any problems found in your mate can PROBABLY be linked to you. It's YOUR reflection, so don't hate the mirror if you don't like what you see! =)