Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Selfish Women, 20% Men, And Honeymoon Periods


Alright first off, just so there's no misunderstanding about the last blog, it DOES NOT excuse you ladies from the fact that you cheated, if that is the action you choose to take about your situation. Because that only comes from SELFISHNESS and/or WEAKNESS. If you are a real woman and know that you’re not happy in a situation, you ALWAYS have the option to JUST LEAVE and keep your integrity. That's what you’re supposed to do. Because whether or not you feel you have a good reason to cheat, at the end of the day it still makes you a CHEATER. BETTER EXAMPLE: The Bible says, if you’re married and have an AFFAIR, it makes you an ADULTERER. There's nothing ANOTHER PERSON can do, to change YOUR ACTIONS from being ADULTERESS. So you can't let a bad man turn you into a bad woman. Or you will become everything you despise in a man that cheats. If you don’t like the situation, BOUNCE. Don't wait until you meet that safety net guy, and monkey bar over to him, because that's just showing WEAKNESS, and that you’re scared to face that in-between period. Either that, or your weakness in yielding to physical temptation. No more boyfriend #2's!!! =)

NOW FOR THE REAL TOPIC............a LOT of yall are just plain SELFISH! You mess wit that second guy to meet a need you feel is not being met at home. And half of the time it's SEX or MATERIAL THINGS(THAT'S A WHOLE OTHER BLOG,LOL) Or you just have SO MANY DAMN NEEDS that you don't take the time out to realize how many of them your man IS meeting you unappreciative heffas!lol Some of you actually have GOOD DUDES at home, but your so stuck on that "HONEYMOON PERIOD" from when you first got together, that all you see is that things aint how they used to be. And there's nothing a man can do to bring back the honeymoon period, that's going to die. Your going to run out of stuff to talk about because you'll know everything about each other, so the conversation will be reduced to what happened "TODAY". Even if HE DID keep sending flowers they would affect you less each time you got them because eventually you become desensitized and stop appreciating it the same. FOR EXAMPLE ladies, if a man kisses you on your neck, doesn't it feel nice? But if he kisses that same spot for 20 minutes, it won’t feel the same at the end as it did when he first started. You want him to move around. YET, you're not realizing that he just sat there for 20 min. doing something HE THOUGHT you liked. AND THAT'S HOW YALL'S DAMN NEEDS ARE.LOL Cuz eventually a guy will run out of places to kiss metaphorically speaking. In other words he will run out of ways to please you AND GIVE UP because you're NEVER SATISFIED, And don’t appreciate the things HE IS doing to satisfy you. You can have 50 needs (well actually 30 of those are wants if you’re spoiled) and if a guy meets 40 of them, you will find a guy to meet the other 10. JUST SELFISH! And the sad part is that it takes you messing with lesser man for you to realize that all he'll ever be able to do is meet those 10 needs. AGAIN, u got your 80% man at home, and you cheat with the 20% dude who tells you what you want to hear, like us men do. FOR EXAMPLE you see other people’s babies and you pick them up and say how cute and put them down and go home, and all of a sudden you want kinds of your own. But when you have YOUR OWN and you have to deal, day in and day out, it aint as cute. SAME GOES for da 20% man. He doesn't have to deal with your attitudes, complaints, or demands all day everyday. Life's easy for him. He gets to spend 2 hours with you, get some booty, take you home, and go chill with his friends while your man gets fussed at for trying to spend 2 hours with his friends, and gets no booty because you're not in the mood. Now, that I think about it, yall are some COLD CREATURES!lol

FINAL THOUGHT..............The honeymoon period WILL END! Don't mistake that for your dude changing because you're going to put yourself through a WHOLE LOT of emotional drama by involving someone else in your relationship. You'll go through the honeymoon period with him, and then what? You'll always get the butterflies with the NEW GUY because he's the new guy. Don’t fall into the "He makes me feel the way you used to" trick that your emotions play on you. And quit being SELFISH and appreciate the man you have. If he let's you get your way MOST of the time, please don't fight him on the couple times he doesn't or that he expresses his wants and they don’t match yours. When you LOVE SOMEONE, sometimes you put your wants on the backburner, because making your partner happy becomes a want in itself. That goes for BOTH SEXES, so don’t' let anybody twist my words to manipulate you because guys do that, but that's another blog too. I know this one was long, and I STILL left some stuff out.lol

The whole blog may not speak for you, but admit to yourself what's real and take the things in here that do apply to you, and apply it to your relationship!!!

Monday, September 28, 2009

Just Listen To Her




Fellas, I know a lot of the time it seems like your woman is nagging. You want the solution? JUST LISTEN TO HER!lol For 1, if you're not listening, she can tell and 50% of the argument will be about you not listening. 2, If she's nagging or complaining about something there's obviously somethin that SHE feels is important enough that it needs to be addressed. (try to make it make it more important to YOU) She's expressing her FEELINGS, but she MAY BE just communicating it in a way that makes NO SENSE to you because she's being EMOTIONAL, and we're more LOGICAL of course. When this happens, you have to take the time and look past what SHE'S SAYING, and see what SHE MEANS. And if you care enough about your relationship, you'll work on whatever it is that's making her unhappy. Even if you aren't fully successful, she'll appreciate you trying to work on the problem.

NOW IF U DONT listen, you'll form a wall that blocks out everything she is saying and it will all go into the NAGGING BOX. And you wont even know the issues or problems in your relationship until the end, and i GUARANTEE YOU that all the issues that caused you to lose your woman will be in that NAGGING BOX chillin. lol

IT GETS WORSE.........because you not listening will only make it that much EASIER FOR THE NEXT guy. Why? Because he doesn't have to be the 100% MAN that you had to be to get her. He just has to supply that 20% that you're not. And you know how he's gonna do that? He's gonna LISTEN!!!! And she's gonna tell him all the stuff you do wrong, that u didn't wanna listen to when she told YOU. So he's gonna know EVERYTHING NOT TO DO. And he's gonna play his roll and be that 20% MAN that when put together with your 80% gives her the full 100% she feels she deserves. Say HI TO BOYFRIEND #2.

And finally, the sad part is..............she''ll regret it. Because eventually she'll see the 20% in him. You'll still love her, no matter how hard you try to act about it. Feelings don't go away like that. So she'll love you and not have you, and you'll love her, but your pride wont let you be with her, and your relationship will go down the drain. So, the easiest thing to do would be....................JUST LISTEN TO HER!!!

Thursday, September 24, 2009

You Catch What You Fish For





Alright, this one's for all of us that spend so much time complaining about the opposite sex.


Ok, LADIES FIRST!lol Because you are NOTORIOUS for complaining about the guys you meet. But it's like the title says, "You Catch What You Fish For". Let me break it down for you, when you go fishing, you don't just throw your line out and whatever you catch, you catch. It doesn't work like that. FIRST you decide WHERE your going to fish, whether your going salt water fishing (Ocean), or fresh water fishing (Lake, Pond, etc). So that tells you already, WHERE YOU hang plays a part in what kind of men you meet. SECOND, the BAIT you use determines the kind of fish you’re going to catch. If you're trying to catch Salmon, you use Salmon bait; If you’re trying to catch Trout, Bass, Catfish, etc., you use the kind of bait that those individual fish are attracted to. THE POINT IS.......quit using ASSHOLE BAIT and thinking your going to catch a good man, and then getting mad at ALL MEN when you find out you caught an asshole. If you dress like a HOE, you’re going to catch a PIMP. If you wear red braids with big visible tattoos, and you smell like cigarettes....... you're going to attract a dusty dude, straight up.lol If you dress like an executive chick, the executive cat in the suit's more likely to approach you. If you dress and carry yourself like you're WIFE MATERIAL, you're going to attract a HUSBAND!!! So you have to stop acting like it's ALL ON US, and before you go out, think of where you’re going, who's going to be there, and what kind of attention you’re going to attract.


Alright now, FELLAS; since I don't have to explain fishing to you, I'm going to get straight to the point. We spend half of our time trying to attain GOLD DIGGER BAIT, and then get mad when every female you meet is a gold digger. Half of the time we are puting up a front and don't really have it like that anyway, but if you use artificial bait, your're going to catch an artificial chick. If you use MATERIAL THINGS to get her attention, don't act surprised when you find out she's materialistic!!! I have a friend who has a nice car that gets a lot of attention, and he'll say things like, "yeah I bossed up on her and she was eyeing my rims hard", or "she was jocking the whip", or "she saw the ice and she was on me", etc. WHAT DOES THAT TELL YOU FOOL!!! LOL. Same goes for you too, the way you dress and carry yourself determines what you catch. If you have on baggy jeans with some chucks and a big long shirt with tattoos, etc., Don’t expect to attract an executive woman that's in town on business. Just like if you’re in a suit or nice vest, you’re probably not going to attract a hood chick. and SECOND........look at WHERE you’re meeting the chick. Not saying that good women don’t go to clubs, but STOP meeting women at the clubs and being mad when she wants to go out to da clubs with her friends all da time and do her thing. She's not going just become a sit in the house type chick because she met you. That's like a chick coming up to me after a show, and we hook up, and her being mad because I go out of town to perform, or go to the studio too much.


THIS IS WHERE IT GETS RAW:

   NOW BEWARE because there are some fakes out there that will put on whatever kind of front they have to in order to get what they want, but if you pay attention to their inconsistencies, they'll eventually give themselves away. For example, as much as it hurts me to say, you can meet a hoe at a Church. Now if that's an issue she's working on, that's what's up and it's between her and The Lord. BUT in some cases, it's because the hoe wants the respect that the Church girl gets, meaning the way you come at her, the way you automatically think she may be the Wife type, or sometimes you won't even curse in front of her because you don't know exactly How Christian she is.lol But the hoe will usually give herself away by trying to sell the "Church Girl" image too hard, and the way she treats people or carries herself won't match up. But she'll just always say how much she Loves going to Church.


        IN CONCLUSION though, if you're single and you're REALLY trying to find that somebody, you have to be a reflection of the caliber of person you're looking for. Treat it like a job interview; If your applying for job at McDonalds, you can go in the interview with jeans and a T-Shirt tucked in and get the job by just not saying anything TOO STUPID. But if you want a job at a job that's WORTH KEEPING, you have to get your suit and tie out with your hard bottoms and talk like you have some sense and carry yourself like you deserve to be there. So yeah, at the end of the day, "You Catch What You Fish For". I know this one was long, but hope you got something from it!!! =)

Subject: Dating, Relationships